วันศุกร์ที่ 22 กุมภาพันธ์ พ.ศ. 2556
LONG TERM AND SHORT TERM FRIENDS
Thai culture makes us look nice and friendly with neighbors and foreigners. We smile and be polite with them although they are stranger or we rare know them. It's the strongest point for the sexy word " Siam Smile " for us. In the other hand , it's the tragedy of the word " Friend " (เพื่อน ( Phean ) ) in The Land of Smile. In English, Friend is a kind of Specific word and very very special , I have never heard any Native speaker uses the word Class Friend, Room Friend, Working Friend and any words about friend in their native English ( or they have? please amend me ), they uses the word as classmate, roommate, mate, colleague , co-worker while in Thai language , we put the word " Friend" in every collaborated relation words as Phean Roum Ngan ( Colleague , Co-Worker), Phen Rum Hong ( Classmate ) and etc. So, I separate 2 kinds of Friend
Short Term Friend : Just know at the bars, restaurants, trip , schools or dealing in the business. Youjust hang out together sometimes or once or twice in our life or deal for some jobs. They can come and go, missing contact, any times. It's easy to delete on Facebook ( Mostly, I got delete ) but some can extend the relation and switch to be long.It becomes SOMEBODY I USED TO KNOW but not feel anything much.
Long Term Friend : Know a long time in the different situations. It's the up level of Short Term Friend but the relation more closer, keeping contact, more sharing, no cheating and supporting , and must be at least 2 years ( some people give 5 -10 years probation ). This group hasn't had the chance to switch back to be Short Term Friend,but it becomes SOMEBODY I USED TO KNOW ,feel like shit but still have some chance to return.
Facebook is the great example, we always add a lot of people who we talk and know or maybe not know. If we don't know them. They delete us, it's ok while you used to do some activities, studying or work with them and they delete you after you don't have the contact with them or you still keep contact but not like a favorite one, it means that you are not important in their life. In the business world, I got this one in Pattaya, a lot of foreign clients call me ' Friend" while I rare know them and for sure, no more discount ;-).
Moreover, Friend still has the section as Biz Friend, Good Friend, Close Friend, Fuck Friend ( someone may have it ;-) ) , Real Friend, Middle Long and Short Term Friend and more. You can state any words about friend from you until you go to the world Best Friend. Let try to count how many Long Term Friend do you have?